Compassion, the Missing Link

The reason compassion for others is missing in our world might be because we lack compassion for ourselves. And the reason why we lack compassion for ourselves is because it was never given to us.  I am not talking sympathy or flattery here. I am talking about REAL COMPASSION. Compassion is relating to other's pain and... Continue Reading →

Why I believe Emotions are Life

The most raw expression you have, the most authentic part of you is your emotions. Emotions are rage, anger, jealousy, terror, fear, sadness, shame, guilt, helplessness, joy, laughter, bliss, happiness.... "In order to fully embrace our inner power, we first need to accept all emotions rather than ignoring certain emotions that we think are too... Continue Reading →

Why Healing is Not For Everyone

I don't think it is possible for some to work on healing right now for the following reasons: 1) You have too many triggers in your current life. For real true healing to happen, one must feel supported and be in a safe environment free from more abuse. 2) You are too fragmented. There is... Continue Reading →

What is Mental Illness?

All mental illness might be -- is our unique way of coping with repressed (or unrepressed) unhealed trauma (repressed means forgotten; it's a survival mechanism). Forgotten or unforgotten childhood trauma causes physical changes in our brain, cells, our tissues, our immunity and our biochemistry in general. Trauma that is not dealt with is stored in... Continue Reading →

Objectivity is Real

Truth is 100% objective. It's perception that is subjective and individual. We are all mutated and unhealed in some fashion and so long as we have unhealed wounds, we might unconsciously continue to see the world and others through the lens of wounds (the child mind). This is why we all have unique perceptions. Our... Continue Reading →

How to Stay in Your Own Lane

...and how to help people when they are down...... People can appear to be "stuck in victimhood". To resolve this, ask yourself why this happens. When you feel you have the answer, but are still silently condemning or are still irritated or feel the need to lecture, then you might not know the real reason... Continue Reading →

Why Do People Sexually Abuse Others?

Concerning the inquiry of why people sexually abuse others, there have been many people who have dug deeply and have shared their views. Generously,  Adrian Millane of Australia,  opined on this topic today and gave me the permission to share it. I think this is important to read because if we don't get to the... Continue Reading →

Positivity, the New Word for Fear

False-positivity is a fear-based defense mechanism we might use to protect ourselves from truths we might not  want to face. Often this form of denial is masqueraded as an enlightened state when in reality, people in this state cannot cope with reality. There is nothing wrong with living in fear, but so long as we... Continue Reading →

Core Engergetics VS Primal Theory

There are some therapies out there that promise the body stuff and the emotional release and we can get a tremendous amount of benefit from those cathartic therapies. But there is a caveat. In the case of Core Energetics (CE), they might interrupt the automatic process of regression and reliving. Contrary to popular belief, to... Continue Reading →

Replacing Mothership with Friendship

What if kindness, compassion, selflessness and love come authentically only after a process through trauma recovery? What if some forms of nice-ness are trauma responses often called "the fawn response" while kindness is a byproduct of healing? Are we being unrealistic when we ask others to be nice to us? Be nice. Be kind. Be... Continue Reading →

Classical Music is Boring?

Many think classical music is boring and I cannot blame people for that. To be fair, we are not really exposed to all the branches of the tree of classical music. Our exposure is grossly limited. My husband has opened my eyes to cathartic classical music. How can one watch the below orchestra and think... Continue Reading →

Highly Relational Beings

I am so glad there is a "word" for people like myself. My real people are those who aren't afraid of communication. "As many of us have found out, silence can be violence when it is used in an effort to wound. It is one of the most potent ways to cause deep suffering. And... Continue Reading →

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