Does your diet cause you to love or judge? Since 2014 when I started to make major changes in my diet, I joined a lot of Facebook health groups and fast-forward to 2018, I am reporting a pattern. The internet is ripe with diet "experts", know-it-alls, and a lot of people whose validity is contingent... Continue Reading →
One of the hardest things to do is to be true to the Self. Most of us like to think we are being true, but are we really? I know it can be so hard for me to set boundaries and own them without wavering. Time and time again, I re-open up closed doors just... Continue Reading →
I love the idea of a suicide hotline. It's a great place to go when there is no other. But it is sad that it even has to exist as it is sad that therapists have to exist. Real friendship is, for the most part, dead. While some of us have pure intentions to help... Continue Reading →
It's OK to take things personally sometimes to bring up those buried emotions from unhealed wounds of the past to the surface. We need to take things personally for our healing journey if you consider that. If someone has made you upset, it is not a weakness; it is a call to give full expression... Continue Reading →
There are only two choices we can make in life and we have to make these choices everyday: To love or to judge. How happy we are is contingent upon which choice we make.
If we learn only the light about our own country, we are ignorant. If we learn only about the darkness of our own country, we are ignorant. If we learn only about the light in other countries, we are ignorant. If we learn only of the darkness in other countries, we are, again, ignorant. If... Continue Reading →
A perfect way to see our past is through the relationships we have with others in the present. Wonky relationships in the present are sometimes associated with pathological relationships we have had with our role models growing up. We might normalize a dysfunctional upbringing (if we haven't completely repressed it) as a means to cope,... Continue Reading →
Do we really need more reasons to be ashamed of ourselves? There are so many spiritual shame-inducing pyramids out there that suggest love and joy are high-vibrational and feelings like shame, fear, guilt and anger are low-vibrational. While it is true love is the highest vibrational frequency, the intent behind the message might be to... Continue Reading →
I admit holidays, birthdays, weddings, and tradition can be a lot of fun. I really do understand the excitement and the fun involved in spending time with loved ones a few times a year. Good food, good conversation, seeing those you haven't seen in ages, playing games and just good old fun. I am really... Continue Reading →
If we believe that something is negative, then it is negative. If we associate pain with "bad", then so shall it be. If we believe that tarot cards and gemstones can be destroyed by energy, then they can. If we believe that our cards are always safe, then so they shall be. For me, everything... Continue Reading →
If people get on your butt for being negative, it's only because they judge themselves for being negative. They don't love themselves unconditionally. So, please never let anyone shame your realness. We are multifaceted souls and each have our own unique spark. Let it shine!
Healing is not contingent on forgiveness but forgiveness may be a natural byproduct of true and complete healing from trauma. I would like to share some empowering and validating passages from the book "Miss America By Day" written by Marilyn Van Derbur who was incested from age 5-18 by her father. Marilyn courageously did the... Continue Reading →
Healing, generally, cannot be done if we don't feel safe. Whatever 'safe' means for you, you might need to be in that environment before feelings begin to surface naturally. You need to be able to raise hell in a safe place without the interference or judgment. This is why kids who have been through trauma... Continue Reading →
The reason why so many of us prefer nonhuman animals as companions is probably because animals really know how to be a friend. The nonhuman animal will love you if you are cranky, enraged, self-pitying, depressed, helpless, hopeless, terrified, grief-stricken, can't get over it, sad, stuck, unmotivated, whiny, angry, impatient, negative, ignorant, fat, sick or... Continue Reading →
I really do feel like it's all made up. This 7 minute lecture keeps me from taking myself and life too seriously. I do have to take life seriously, but sometimes I go overboard and there's nobody like Benjamin Smythe to help me lighten up. https://youtu.be/eo5HtBTpFO4
One thing that's for sure is that we all die. There is no diet we can go on that will prevent our death. We are all here to do what we came here to do and then die. So whether we're on the standard western diet, or the Japanese rice diet, the keto diet, the... Continue Reading →
These days I've been thinking Depression might be a physical illness. We are told it's a "mind-thing" meaning that you can change your mind and then not be depressed anymore. However, those who really understand depression from personal experience note that they have felt it in the body. You get to a point where it's... Continue Reading →
The Importance of self-experimentation and trusting the Self when committing to healing modalities and dieting: Truth might not live outside us like we might think it does. We can only know what works and what doesn't through personal experience, through our mistakes and through our own inner wisdom and guidance. It is great to listen... Continue Reading →
The Law of Attraction may not be represented the way it really is, I wonder. My husband and I had been talking about this a while back after watching the first few minutes of a law of attraction video. They say likes are supposed to attract likes and dislikes are supposed to attract dislikes. Between... Continue Reading →
There was a picture circulating on the internet and it included a picture on the left of a kid crying because she got the wrong iPhone for Christmas and on the right was a boy in an "undeveloped country" with grungy man-made flips flops on. It went viral and this meme caused a lot of... Continue Reading →
The most loving thing you can do is allow your self-hatred. Anytime you resist your own honesty, anytime you resist where you are or who you are at any given moment, you are resisting yourself. You are saying "no" to your authenticity. It's that resistance that is unloving. If you really love yourself or... Continue Reading →
How not to be a victim and how to take responsibility for our own feelings and move to a place of empowerment. Change can only happen within and relationships with others help with that. This is why it's so important to have some semblance of a social life as others teach us inadvertently who we... Continue Reading →
Truth is, courageous and beautiful Eartha Kit and those like her are anything but crazy. This world needs more like her. https://youtu.be/IGYwf7e_cr8
My opinion on the importance of duality or yin and yang. We curse the Dark as it should not even be allowed here. We complain about the negative and the dark aspects of ourselves, others and life, but the truth is that everything that exists is needed. It doesn't mean we have to like it,... Continue Reading →
I used to hide my writings. Even on Facebook, I would only show my writings to a select few as I knew others wouldn't appreciate my thoughts and feelings as a lot of my views contradict mainstream social attitudes. And that's OK. My husband who is a fan of my work told me I was... Continue Reading →
When we allow others to have their own opinion without trying to censor them, we are practicing love; we are probably becoming free ourselves. Refuting claims others make is fine; censorship is a different animal. Censorship not only oppresses others, but it imprisons the oppressors more than anyone else. When we give the gift of... Continue Reading →
What better way to learn judgment isn't kind than to be on the receiving end of judgement ourselves? While being judged might feel like a curse at first, it's a blessing in disguise if we use it as tool to learn not to judge others....since we know how it feels. And we might not learn... Continue Reading →
Psychobabble is a derogatory term that some of us use when we read something too deep or maybe even too technical for our minds to comprehend. It happens to a lot of us. So, instead of accepting it is our problem, we get angry and direct our anger toward the messenger. And instead of being... Continue Reading →
It is easy to be kind to those who are just like us. But if we are the kind people we say we are, we will even be kind to those who are different from us. That is how true kindness works. Can you co-exist with someone who marches to a different drum? Or do... Continue Reading →
We may not feel safe in the scariest deepest darkest depth of our shadow unless there is a ray of light to help us feel safe to 'go there'. And we may not be able to embody light unless we have first faced, fully, the dark. This could be the Divine Law of Opposites at... Continue Reading →
