Why telling others to focus on the positive might be a negative thing to do: If we are sincere about our quest to be positive and want to set the best example of positivity to others, we will love people as they are. Telling others that they are wrong the way they are is not love. Love means not asking others to be a certain way for us. The most selfless, positive gift you can ever give a person is the gift of allowing them to be unhappy. We can choose not to spend time with certain people, but we don’t have to tell them who to be if we are sincerely positive people.
If someone is focused or stuck in negativity, maybe they need to be there for a while and be loved, validated and accepted in that place. Trust there is a reason why they are in that dark hole. We cannot know another’s path, so there’s no point in trying to understand — except that it is their path and there is a reason they are stuck. If it bothers us, it very well may be that negative person is reflecting back to us the pent-up stagnant negativity energy that is inside us. This gives us a golden opportunity to explore ourselves, ask tough questions and be brutally honest to ourselves so that we may become more self-aware and heal. And once we have faced ourselves and healed our own wounds, we may notice that external negativity can no longer interrupt our lives and we may even stop attracting these mirrors.
The best thing we can do might be to love all parts of ourselves so that we may someday be able to love all parts of those people outside us. This is positivity in action.
“We cannot change anything unless we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. I am the oppressor of the person I condemn, not his friend and fellow-sufferer. I do not in the least mean to say that we must never pass judgment in the case of persons whom we desire to help and improve. But if the doctor wishes to help a human being he must be able to accept him as he is. And he can do this in reality only when he has already seen and accepted himself as he is.”
~by Carl Jung (26 July 1875 – 6 June 1961)
from Modern Man in Search of a Soul, Psychotherapists or the Clergy
by Carl Gustav Jung, William Stanley Dell, Cary F. Baynes