It is incredibly hard to please everybody. And believe me when I say, for the last 49 years I have done all I can do to make everyone happy because I just wanted to be loved. I wanted the love from others I wasn’t able to give myself.
I have come to realize that it is impossible to please everyone. I have learned if I cannot please everyone, that it is not because there is something wrong with me, but that since we are all unique and have different backgrounds, how could it be even possible to please all people?
Have you ever tried such a feat? Goodness, you become exhausted, don’t you?
If we were all the same, that would be one thing, but we are not. We have different physiologies, different health struggles, different stress levels, different living conditions, different finances, different genetic expressions, different physical ages, different past lives, different upbringings, different opinions, different attitudes and we are all uniquely indoctrinated. Some of us are extroverts, some of us are introverts, some of us are subservient and some of us are subversive, some of us are leaders, some of us are followers, some of us are proud and some of us are self-deprecating. We can watch a movie and all have a different view of it. We can read a book and no two people will interpret it the same. We can look at a picture and have a different experience of it. Some souls are new to this planet, some are young, some are somewhere in the middle, some are old, and some souls are very advanced. So, it is obvious that catering to everyone’s needs is clearly an impossible task.
As a result of not being able to please everyone, we will have to face criticism, judgment, and rejection every once in a while. We will know the pain of being misunderstood in spite of how clearly we communicate. And we will blame ourselves thinking we’re not good enough, but it’s not you. And it’s not your problem.
And the best way to handle rejection is by allowing it. And allowing the feelings. Let it be OK to be disliked.
Just let it happen.
Let people not like you. Let that be YOUR job to like you, and then you will be free.
“I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense.”