The Law of Attraction may not be represented the way it really is, I wonder. My husband and I had been talking about this a while back after watching the first few minutes of a law of attraction video. They say likes are supposed to attract likes and dislikes are supposed to attract dislikes. Between my husband and I, our likes have attracted dislikes; our dislikes have attracted likes. Our worries and fears have not attracted more of the same. In fact things that we have worried or focused about have turned out happy endings and things that we didn’t even think about have brought on unpleasant surprises.
Some spiritual leaders say that our fears alone will create just what it is we are fearing. What about those who get on a plane and fear a plane crash the whole time they’re on the plane? Let’s say that their fear brought on the crash (as how the Law of Attraction is supposed to work). Well, that means our fear would take precedence over the soul contracts of say 200 other passengers? How can that be? We, in this physical human form, might not be so powerful that our anxieties can trump the free will and life purpose of another person.
Worry and fear are natural and beautiful aspects of being human. We don’t discuss our worries and fears with each other since it is taboo in our culture. Anything that isn’t happy-floaty is taboo. We fear pain. We try to avoid it at any cost. But if we did talk with each other about that which we fear, we might all be closer and less fearful. Talking about our fears might help us to face them and what we face dissolves eventually.
I like those parts of myself that are scared and vulnerable sometimes. Even those parts that worry and fear. They are like other people inside me and they deserve my love and acceptance. They are a call to look at my shadow. They are a call to pay attention and listen, sometimes a call to take action. If it weren’t for my human worries, how would I know myself? Why would I want to shun and hush them away? And why would I want to encourage others to self-flagellate as well?
I sometimes post less than pleasant information on Facebook and I can always expect the same comments. “You get what you focus on.” First of all, the LOA (law of attraction) does not work like this. Secondly, a post takes me a couple hours to write in a 24 hour day so how does anyone know my “focus”? Thirdly, even if that was my focus, the whole problem with the world is that we don’t talk about what is wrong enough. We run from REAL issues. That is anything but positive. Denial is the epitome of Negativity because it’s fear-based. We don’t like to hear about the real issues because we are scared and living in fear is not living. Finally, the more we run from important issues, the more control those issues have over us.
There is a principle of attraction, but I think it works in such a way that we attract intelligently and lovingly what our soul needs to in order to remember who we really are — as opposed to being punished for feeling the wrong emotions and being human. There are no punishing cosmic arbiters. The idea of punishment (in getting what you focus on) in modern religious doctrine is a man-made construct designed to control, shame and strip people of their human spirit. The false pop-version of the “Law of Attraction” uses manipulation and fear to get others to bend their will to the needs of those who cannot handle reality. For example, society will shame those who are brave enough to feel shame because they cannot handle their own repressed shame. Since we are all connected, we sometimes mirror one another. We want to block in others that which we cannot handle in ourselves.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung
Life is a mixture of the dark and the light. When we ignore one, we discount all. You don’t really start living until you start acknowledging the dark and why it’s even here at all. And since we now have an extreme imbalance of false-positivity, lots and lots of darkness-facing is so desperately needed in order to reach balance.