The Problem With Words

It’s easy to misunderstand someone as our perception might be limited to ​the ​ understanding​ we have​ of ourselves. But it doesn’t end there. Also, ​too much left-brain and not enough right-brain action might be responsible:

The right-hemisphere mode of function, as we have noted, has a greater facility in working with images and pictures — a much more vivid, faster, and direct mode than stringing a description together with words. Although in today’s world we regard words and speech so highly, there are some real problems with word communication. We never know whether the meaning and feelings associated with a word exactly correspond to another’s interpretation. Richard Bandler and John Grinder (the originators of neurolinguistic programming) have even said:
“It would be easier to do therapy in a foreign language! That way you would not have the illusion that the words you heard had the same meaning for the person who uttered them as they have for you. And believe me it is an illusion.” (Bandler and Grinder 1979)
This is particularly appropriate when treating relationship problems because, as they say, “Couples usually get into trouble with words, because people are not very good with words” (Bandler and Grinder 1979)” Perhaps it is just the words are very divorced from our internal experience. Words are a long way from the actual experience. They are a very poor approximation no wonder we get caught up in knots.
“Lose your mind and come to your senses” (Bandler and Grinder 1979). Our left hemispheres, to put it bluntly, are not only liars but also a little stupid.”


I have noticed on the internet so many arguments are not about the subject at hand, but over words. In other words, we are agreeing with each other. We are arguing, yet in agreement. This is the ultimate irony and the problem with semantics.  The solution is to speak clearly. Nobody’s a mind-reader so you have to speak as if the one you’re talking to cannot read your mind. And if you’re the one listening, try  listening for intention instead of words. And if you don’t understand, ASK.

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