“Whatever you’re going through, there’s no rule that says you have to do it with a brave smile all the damn time. You’re a person, not a freaking hospitality lounge. You don’t have to make everyone comfortable. Just be your real imperfect self.” ~Nanea Hoffman We often say "be yourself", but the truth is, it... Continue Reading →
Why We Might Complain
I love people who complain probably because I love the part of me that complains. It's real. People who complain are real people. Some don't realize that you can still be grateful, fun and positive and still complain. Life isn't easy and we all need each other since we are all a part of one... Continue Reading →
Can We Program the Cooties out of Our Water? Or our Minds? How Much Control Do We Have Over Our Lives?
This post is inspired by the work of Masaru Emoto and his water programming experiments and results. What if our experience of the world might be contingent upon our beliefs? If we believe water can be damaged by energy, then it so shall be. If we believe tarot cards can be damaged by "the wrong... Continue Reading →
The World’s Ironic Racist Mindset
If there's anything we won't tolerate, it is racism. Racism sets off all the fireworks as it should. A large amount of FB groups, upon entering when you read the guidelines says no racism. A lot of us post about how bad racism is often on the internet, blog sites and on social media. The... Continue Reading →
The Truth Behind ‘No Pain, No Gain’: The Gritty Messy Road to Freedom
I posted a video below of a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly. I think this is very much like our transition from spiritual infancy into maturity. The caterpillar breaks itself down, sheds her old self and goes through a difficult, laboring and challenging process to become a butterfly. I see a lot of humans who... Continue Reading →
The Trigger System and How it Works
Why we might sweat the small stuff... Hey, I knock people for sweating the small stuff sometimes. We have all probably done it and might still even do it. I get it, though. We say "don't cry over spilled milk", we tell others they are being melodramatic, we tell people they're just trying to get... Continue Reading →
A “Just Be Happy” switch? Where is it!?
Popular Culture: Just be happy. Perceived Fool: Hey, great idea. Let me just flip on that happy switch. Oh! All better now! Thanks for saving me! Popular Culture: Love yourself. Perceived Fool: Oh yeah. I must have forgotten. Let me hit that "love yourself" switch. Presto! Popular Culture: Stop being depressed. Perceived Fool: You... Continue Reading →
My Health: From Rags to Riches
Disclaimer: This is a story of personal experience. Please do not use my experiences to take the place of professional advice from a medical doctor. If you are ill, before attempting to use natural cures to heal, please talk to your doctor first. Please stay on your medication. Weaning off medication, fasting, and dieting should... Continue Reading →
If you don’t know me, that’s great because neither do I!
I am not entirely sure who I am. When I talk with people, I am wearing a mask and depending on who I am talking to, I wear a different mask. The more judgmental a person is, the thicker the mask I might wear. I have a large arsenal of masks right at my disposal.... Continue Reading →
The Trap of Black and White Thinking
This prison that is the all or nothing lifestyle. One of the most difficult things to do is appreciate and see all the complex shades of gray in life. Often, we only see black or white, this extreme or that extreme. Liberal vs conservative, atheist vs believer, carnivore vs vegan, man vs woman, spirituality vs... Continue Reading →
Belief Versus Knowing
The fact that we can find a for-argument, an on-the-fence argument and an against-argument on most topics on the internet is a good thing! If you ever wake up one day and all that exists is one opinion, that's when I'd start to worry. In a world where cult-mentalities are mainstream and where we need... Continue Reading →
The Right-fighters Way to Win Arguments Online
How to win an argument online: ---Misrepresent your opponent's argument when you don't have an argument. ---Misrepresent your opponent when you don't have an argument. --Repeat the mainstream narrative over and over again when you don't have an argument. ---Answer a question with a question when you don't have an argument. ---Insult, shame and mock... Continue Reading →
The Hivemind Loses a Bee
There is no room for the Individual in the hivemind. There is no room for Truth in the group. Individuals were never designed to 'fit in'; we were designed to honor our unique spark and stand out. The nail that sticks out gets hammered down. Let them hammer you. If you are true to yourself,... Continue Reading →
Why Listening is the Hardest Thing to Do
Listening is the hardest thing to do because it requires that you see you're not the most important person anymore. It is you acknowledging someone else is also just as important. Fully listening to someone else and hearing their story is one of the most humbling experiences one can have.
Dealing With Keyboard Bullies
The internet is like a shark's tank. It's all because people unconsciously still live in the past. They are carrying around large amounts of baggage. All that baggage and pain gets dumped on you instead. The bullies, rather than taking responsibility for their own life and feeling their feelings so they can heal from the... Continue Reading →
What Makes Us Advanced?
Interesting that how advanced a nation is considered is contingent on how much cool technology they have. I'd prefer to think advancement has more to do with whether or not we're capable of unconditional love. I'd rather strive for that, anyway. Oh do I ever love my computer! You take it away, I will be... Continue Reading →
Do Those Who Have Been There Really Understand the Most?
Many abuse survivors report that the reason people belittle their feelings is because they haven't been there, so they don't understand. While it's true we judge what we don't understand, we also judge what we don't want to remember or face as well. I was once lurking in an online forum for sexual abuse survivors... Continue Reading →
The Victim and The Thriver
It seems as if we all have different opinions as to what a victim or survivor is and many of us disagree with how those words are to be used. I have made up my own meanings as to the difference between these two oversimplified words. For me "victim" is the stage of grief we... Continue Reading →
Conservative VS Progressive in Our Daily Lives
We have the words "progressive" and it's opposite would be "conservative". We usually use them referring to political rhetoric. However, outside politics they have somewhat of a different nuance. I see conservatism as being conventional and honoring tradition and trying to keep what was in tact in spite of whether or not it is needed.... Continue Reading →