Why we argue with those we agree with:
I have noticed for the longest time that human animals are hung up on words. We are, by design, telepathic but behaviorally conditioned to allow words to weigh us down and become an obstacle to mature meaningful communication. If we all forgot about language and just focused on the intention behind what others are trying to tell us, or asking questions for clarification, the amount of arguments would disappear. It happens quite often on the internet. We’ve got two people pretty much in agreement but both are fighting over semantics. I tend to get caught up in in too. Well, since I had always been curious about this phenomenon, who would have thought that one day I’d find someone else noticing the same thing? A thanks to Tony Wright and Graham Gynn, authors of “Return to the Brain of Eden: Restoring the Connection between Neurochemistry and Consciousness”. They validated what I’ve always thought. Often arguments might be the result of damage to the right hemisphere of the brain. When our right brains are compromised by diet, lifestyle, and drugs, our intuition isn’t working like it should. Oh it’s working, yes working, but again, not as it COULD or SHOULD. And when this happens, all we have to rely on is words.
Language is so distracting.
I am reading the above book by Tony Wright and Graham Gynn. Everything is explained there. A 256 page book is dedicated to the phenomenon of how we lost certain brain function over the last 200,000 years and how the food we consume (that we call health food today) from cradle to grave has contributed to that. If you have time, I’d like to quote some tidbits from the book:
“THE PROBLEM WITH WORDS The right-hemisphere mode of function, as we have noted, has a greater facility in working with images and pictures — a much more vivid, faster, and direct mode than stringing a description together with words. Although in today’s world we regard words and speech so highly, there are some real problems with word communication. We never know whether the meaning and feelings associated with a word exactly correspond to another’s interpretation. Richard Bandler and John Grinder (the originators of neurolinguistic programming) have even said: “It would be easier to do therapy in a foreign language! That way you would not have the illusion that the words you heard had the same meaning for the person who uttered them as they have for you. And believe me it is an illusion.” (Bandler and Grinder 1979) This is particularly appropriate when treating relationship problems because, as they say, “Couples usually get into trouble with words, because people are not very good with words” (Bandler and Grinder 1979)”
Perhaps it is just the words are very divorced from our internal experience. Words are a long way from the actual experience. They are a very poor approximation no wonder we get caught up in knots. “Lose your mind and come to your senses” (Bandler and Grinder 1979). Our left hemispheres, to put it bluntly, are not only liars but also a little stupid.”
I stink at language too. The recommended antidote, however, is to ASK QUESTIONS. We have no excuse not to. I was having a discussion with someone a while back and I had used the word “God”. We both interpret the word “God” in not only dissimilar ways, but polar opposite ways. It is one of the biggest buzz words and gets human animals so knotted up that the ability to reason becomes inhibited. The word “communism” is another buzzword. Forget the well-thought-out paragraphs you wrote on it, forget the unique ideas you have on the topic, your readers are already triggered into a frenzy thinking you’re some right-wing loon. We are so divided and so schooled to be offended and think with narrow black-and-white lenses that any hope for a mature thoughtful dialogue might be unlikely since we cannot see outside the fog of our own conditioned prejudices.
Sadly, there are so many arguments over WORDS in this easily offended society. Forget about context and the hope you will be read if you use a buzz word without a disclaimer.
“This is exactly what we’re talking about here. People jump to all kinds of conclusions because there’s no rationality left in the process. When you have mind-control, that’s the first thing that goes. People can’t think. They can’t reason. They can’t say “wait a minute; let’s slow down here, just wanna get that fact straight – what did you say?” There’s none of that. That’s all out now. It’s all just mind-control. How do we elicit the stimulus response? How do we make the dog drool? When we ring the bells so that the dog thinks that the food is coming. And when you get to that level, then people just start jumping to all manner of wild conclusions, you know that… “OK so you must be an atheist because you’re saying some candidates are using God as a brand.” ….”NO, not saying that at all.” But people just make the most outrageous leaps because THINKING is out. It’s ALL mind-control.” –Jon Rappoport
Language, indeed, is distracting and misleading, quite often.
If you’d like to know more or are If you are interested in this topic, I recommend this book.