It’s no easy task to grow up in a world that glorifies the victim. Look at the lawsuit culture in America. Somebody trips on a grape at the supermarket, they sue and make a lot of money off of that. Our laws are structured to make it the fault of the business instead of the individual. Our laws teach us that if you make a mistake, it’s someone else’s fault. Our medical establishment teaches us the same. If we are sick, rather than identifying our poor habits and removing that which might have caused the illness, we are indirectly encouraged to blame everything and anything but ourselves… and here’s a little something to numb the symptoms….
Learned helplessness is so deeply ingrained into our psyche. Life happens. Making mistakes and falling down is a part of life. Why can’t we own that? Why can’t we pull ourselves off the ground and start over and try to do better? If you call me a name, you are responsible for doing that, but I am responsible for how I feel and react to it. If you come over my house and trip on a banana peel, I am responsible for my messy home, but you are responsible for not watching where you’re going. When we blame, that keeps us from making the effort to do better. When we don’t own ourselves, growth is stunted.
When will we grown-ups ever put on our grown-up pants?
People don’t need to be censored either. The responsibility shouldn’t all be in the hands of the preachers but rather on the audience to think critically, question what they hear, investigate for themselves and to be discerning. While children need guidance and to be told how to do life, as adults we should have already learned to think for ourselves. So long as we keep censoring the deceivers, the more people will blame them for their own poor choices.
Censorship panders to the victim mentality. It teaches people that someone else is responsible for their mistakes. That if you get offended or harmed by making the wrong decisions without fulling understanding what you’re doing, that it’s out of your hands. So, we beg authority (mommy and daddy) to rid the wrong culprit so we can skirt our own responsibility and not learn from our mistakes.
If I tell you that eating river rocks cures cancer, that makes me irresponsible, yes. I need to learn to not to lie to people. But I cannot learn through the fear of punishment, but rather by a smart audience that calls me out on my bullshit and chooses not to buy what I’m selling. It’s that smart audience that will teach me to change my ways. While I am sorry if people get harmed by blindly believing my cure-all, this is the only way they learn.
I’ve been there. I used to be in a dietary cult. I took their advice and wound up nutritionally deficient and sick. Fast forward, people might think now that I “overthink” or that I might ask too many questions, but see….. that’s the WHOLE PROBLEM WITH THE WORLD is that we DON’T ask enough or THINK enough and that’s why we might make decisions that lead to our demise. Blind trust is a HUGE HUGE PROBLEM. And I am sure as hell to be very careful to not give anyone my blind trust ever again unless I am done with my own homework to research, think, and ask and experience responsibly on myself. The operative word here is RESPONSIBLY.
While I am not feeling warm fuzzy feelings about those who deceived me in the past, it is on me. I own it. I needed that experience to wake me up to the fact that the only real authority is in me. I am much more discriminating and critical now. And for those who cannot think for themselves, I am probably very annoying. And I should hope we ALL get to the same place one day. I still make poor decisions and I still make mistakes, but I would not be as wise as I am today if I hadn’t been deceived. I really don’t want those who duped me to be censored. I want them to be challenged and questioned instead. Again, it shouldn’t be on them but on US to be more discerning and the only way to learn sometimes is to experience our own mistakes.
When we remove those who deceive, we are actually telling people to blame instead of taking personal responsibility for their mistakes. And humanity isn’t going anywhere too impressive if we continue glorifying adults who play the blame-game.