Your Past Might Not Be in Your Past

Your past is probably in your present. The unresolved wounds have followed you here. Childhood trauma causes us to split off from ourselves leaving us fragmented. The split is the unconscious part of your mind (inner child/shadow self) and the unconscious rules roughly 80's of your mind, behavior, your emotions, thoughts and decisions. This means... Continue Reading →

The Purpose of Suffering

I intuit everything has a purpose for our growth. Doesn't mean you don't have to think it stinks; doesn't mean you shouldn't be have your feelings about it. Just means our own pain has meaning to make us better people. Having said that, while my inner child might be pissed off, the adult part of... Continue Reading →

Looking at Bullying More Deeply

Standing up to bullies requires you to have some level of confidence in yourself, some self-knowledge that you matter and you deserve better. This might be the difference between those who fight back and those who don't. Those who don't, on some level, might believe the bullies and probably feel they deserve it. Also if... Continue Reading →

The Unreliability of Personal Experience

I always say personal experience is our best way to truth. Throw dogma and orthodoxy to the wayside and only answer to yourself. Everything outside of you is usually just a racket and a barrel of monkeys. But even personal experience is tricky. It sounds romantic and easy, but to judge using personal experience as... Continue Reading →

On Self-Pity

Healing is very personal.  We think we know what is best for others. We don't. We can't. We can only know our own path. What may look wrong to one person might be very right for another. Sometimes it's time to suppress when things get overwhelming and sometimes it's time to face it. Let the... Continue Reading →

To All Incest and Molestation Survivors…

I created a Facebook page around a year and a half ago to celebrate the work of Marilyn Van Derbur Atler, a childhood incest survivor, motivational speaker and pioneer in breaking the silence around childhood sexual abuse who did not speak publicly about her abuse until 35 years later. Marilyn has devoted much of her adult... Continue Reading →

The Cultural Pressure to be Happy

Merry Christmas Happy New Year Happy Holidays Happy Birthday Just be happy! Hope you feel better Hope everything's OK What's good? What's UP? Hope you are feeling better. How are you? with the expectations the other will respond with "I'm fine." Don't worry; be happy. Our culture might be a little obsessed with happiness. The... Continue Reading →

The Happiness Trap

Spiritual gurus can be an essential part of our growth in the awakening process, but we will probably learn later on that we are your own guru. Gurus who have a following might speak some truths (which is what wheels us in because they have candy!), but for as much candy as they give out,... Continue Reading →

REAL FORCE VS PERCEIVED FORCE

We might think others are forcing their opinions down our throats or imposing their will on us. It's a common complaint especially on social media. But can people really force an opinion on others? Can people force us to go against our will? Even as adults? Nobody can force an opinion. Voicing an opinion isn't... Continue Reading →

Possibly The Highest State of Mind

The highest state of the mind might be a paradoxical state where you realize that everything is connected and everything is both. I can't explain it any other way than to say that things in life might not be one or the other, not this or that, but both. Since everything is connected, even duality... Continue Reading →

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