Standing up to bullies requires you to have some level of confidence in yourself, some self-knowledge that you matter and you deserve better. This might be the difference between those who fight back and those who don’t. Those who don’t, on some level, might believe the bullies and probably feel they deserve it. Also if you’re violently attacked by a group of people or one person who is much taller and bigger, it is very difficult to do much about it.
Why people feel so poorly about themselves that they don’t think it’s worth it to fight back when they can is the question that needs to be asked. Why would someone feel so badly about themselves that they would allow someone to treat them disrespectfully? This same question could be asked to those who are married. Why do adults deal with abusive partners? Why do they take it? Also why people are bullying kids in the first place… so long as you think it’s “kids being kids”, bullying will never end. It’s not kids being kids. Just because something is common, does not mean it’s normal or healthy behavior. Cancer is common these days, but it’s still cancer. Violent children is only a pathology we have become desensitized to and therefore have normalized.
So long as we think violence is normal, natural and necessary………. well then, that is stagnation.
There is no excuse, but there is a good reason why children bully other kids and until we address the root causes of bullying and the root causes of low self-esteem in those who don’t fight back, we will never change. I have been the bully and I have been the bullied and I understand both sides. Once we address and take responsibility for our own personal problems and heal our own unresolved wounds, we might develop a better understanding of ourselves which helps develop a better understanding of each other……..and then how we deal with children might change.