We can do only the physical work to heal and neglect the emotional work or we can do the emotional and neglect the physical. Doing one or the other might only take us so far. I have noticed that working with my physical body is making it a bit easier to work with my emotional... Continue Reading →
If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.
The best way to get people to go atheist is to delegitimize God through fundamentalist organized religion. The best way to get people to eat on a certain diet is by manufacturing idiots to represent the opposition. The best way to get people to become liberal is by manufacturing an unsavory opposing party. The best... Continue Reading →
You have to understand WHY people turn out the way they do in order to get to a point where you no longer condemn them. Condemnation is merely the result of not understanding the reason behind other's behavior. When we understand, we create a place for compassion to be born. When we understand, we can... Continue Reading →
I am reading THE MOST depressing nonfiction book right now and yet since I started reading this book, I am feeling more connected. Maybe it's a coincidence, but every time I read it, I just feel more and more like myself. My energy is positively shifting everyday; the more I read it, the more shifts... Continue Reading →
Over the years, I have developed my own measuring stick to see if someone might be genuine or not. I am more likely to give unpopular ordinary people a chance. The truth is offensive, inconvenient, unpopular, controversial, painful and what eventually liberates us. The more challenged you feel by the information, sometimes this might mean... Continue Reading →
Trauma is generational in that we, with the use of our own Free Will, continue the cycle. That is the only 'generational' thing about it and it's not a "curse" either. If your mother was subjected to molestation in her youth, it is not your responsibility to heal it for her. She is responsible to... Continue Reading →
Can't they just be friends? It's really important to notice the difference between death and grief. What we call "death" is about the one who has gone back Home and grief is about those who have survived the one who has died. All that happens to us in this physical experience gives us opportunity after... Continue Reading →
There is so much emotional and spiritual stagnancy because our culture is all about invalidating our feelings as imaginary. And it's because of this, we have learned to invalidate ourselves. It's also how we avoid painful memories and emotions. When everything is imaginary, a story, an illusion, a projection and a dream, we remain unconsciously... Continue Reading →
The problems with pop-spirituality..... --There are no mistakes. --There's no going off course. --You are already healed. --You are perfect just the way you are. --You don't need to improve upon anything. --There is no guilt even if you intentionally hurt someone else. --If you see someone hurt on the street, walk on by because... Continue Reading →
You can be going through a hell of a time, feeling all sorts of emotions and cursing the world and STILL be grateful all at once. Just because someone is going through a rough patch, does not automatically mean they aren't grateful for what they DO have. Also, you cannot teach someone to be grateful.... Continue Reading →
People who unconsciously feel powerless in their own lives, might seek power and worship power outside themselves. They may love to obey and be agreeable to those they deem more authoritative than themselves and they may also seek to control those who they deem lesser an authority than themselves. This is one of many... Continue Reading →
Disclaimer: The word "God" is mentioned here. What I mean by God is source energy made of love that permeates all life. There is no scientific measuring tool that we can use to prove anything exists outside our five lower senses so if you look at strict science, there is no basis for universal law,... Continue Reading →
There is a closed mind which automatically rejects new information and has prejudices. When the mind is closed, so is the heart. Then there is the Open Mind. That doesn't mean automatic acceptance or approval of incoming information; it's just the state of being Open. An open mind is just Open. It's listening. It's not... Continue Reading →
Our culture says that anger hurts you but we are only getting a half truth here. Anger only punishes you when you keep it inside and suppress it. When you, however, give it full expression in a safe place, once released, you might find that grief was underneath it. Then finally, we feel the grief... Continue Reading →
If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.
The ones who are doing the work of healing are actually letting go of their past are oddly the ones we judge for being stuck there, we judge them because “it happened a long time ago” and "you gotta move on" and we judge them for not getting over it fast enough. We judge them... Continue Reading →
I am seeing it makes a lot of people confused when I talk about how important it is to accept people for who they are and where they are -- to allow people to have their own world viewpoints, their own diet, their own opinions. People think it means to accept being abused and accept... Continue Reading →
Try to read for intention instead of words. I promise you, the amount of times you misunderstand others will be reduced. We are all on different dimensions and define words so differently from one another. The word empathy, love, God, judgement, acceptance, evolution, science, awake, spirit, Christmas, ..... the list is wicked long. We all... Continue Reading →
Anxiety is an interesting one. If you interview people, I'd bet more than not will deny they ever feel it. We might not know we have a problem with it since the worst of it, like fear, is unconscious The way to find out if you have it is by noticing how you feel around... Continue Reading →
People who unconsciously feel powerless in their own lives, might seek power and worship power outside themselves. They may love to obey and be agreeable to those they deem more authoritative than themselves and they may also seek to control those who they deem lesser an authority than themselves. This is one of many manifestations... Continue Reading →
