We might unconsciously forgive our perpetrators prematurely because this way, we don’t need to feel the deepest parts of our pain. Premature cognitive forgiveness, like false positivity and false gratefulness, work as a form of dissociation since the survivor might not be ready to or want to go deeper right now. If people were more honest and said, “I use spiritual bypass because I just cannot handle anymore pain right now”, they would be taking full responsibility for their pain. This is what self-ownership is all about. Right now we just have lots of people disowning their pain and giving off the impression they are spiritually more advanced than everyone else when in reality, they have more pain than they can handle.