Why Adult Trauma Might Be So Unbearable

It's not so much adult trauma that shapes us. The traumas that shape our lives and rule us from the shadows come from repressed childhood trauma. The reason adult trauma might have such an impact might be because it's causing the forgotten childhood trauma up to the surface through emotional flashbacks. Anytime we have a... Continue Reading →

Questioning “The High Road”

Love your enemies Love people from a distance Forgive your enemies Why are we often asking each other to be false? We have this notion that being nice to people we don't like is the high road or a sign of maturity. If you genuinely feel this way toward your enemies and you're not deceiving... Continue Reading →

Spirituality | A Balancing Act

I think there is such thing as ungrounded spiritual beliefs as there is such thing as beliefs being too spiritually materialistic and overly logical. In a black and white all or nothing world, I think the truth is often in the middle. Maybe we cannot learn unless we explore both extremes and check out each... Continue Reading →

We Really Do Need Love

"For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that "unless you love yourself, no one else will love you." ...The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation." ~Bruce D. Perry, M.D.,... Continue Reading →

When Our Wounds are Too Hard to Bear

....or remember...... When we are being abused as children, if the abuse is severe enough, we might leave the body and temporarily go off into another dimension. This might help us survive the abuse so that we can function in the world afterward. Our coping strategies serve us as children, but as adults these dissociative... Continue Reading →

The Eye of Our (Wounds)Storm

For the cathartic emotional release aspect of our healing journey, we might find that we start out emoting outside the "eye of the storm" from the grieving adult perspective. In other words, we might only be able to feel "around the pain" from the adult-self and this might last for a while until we feel... Continue Reading →

Is It Bad to Wish Pain on Our Abusers?

I used to be concerned with being spiritual back in 2014 when I started dipping my feet into popular spirituality, but over the last few years, my main concern is centered on being authentic. That is going to include (expressed in a safe environment) all of my authentic violent blood-red rage, anger, shame, sadness, terror,... Continue Reading →

Wondering if Perception Even Exists

We have likes and dislikes. But in a world where we are conditioned to believe that truth does not exist --- that there is only perception, I theorize that maybe it's the opposite. Maybe there are no perspectives or seeing things differently. With regard to absolute Truth, maybe there is only the Truth and untruths.... Continue Reading →

Taking Things Personally

Just like anyone else, I sometimes take it personally when someone takes something personally. But is it something to shame others for? Should we shame ourselves over it? I have been writing on this topic for some time and I have been thinking that maybe we are not making mistakes by taking things personally. I... Continue Reading →

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