Is Trauma Generational?

Trauma is generational in that we, with the use of our own Free Will, continue the cycle. That is the only 'generational' thing about it and it's not a "curse" either. If your mother was subjected to molestation in her youth, it is not your responsibility to heal it for her. She is responsible to... Continue Reading →

Everything is Really Real

There is so much emotional and spiritual stagnancy because our culture is all about invalidating our feelings as imaginary. And it's because of this, we have learned to invalidate ourselves. It's also how we avoid painful memories and emotions. When everything is imaginary, a story, an illusion, a projection and a dream, we remain unconsciously... Continue Reading →

On Gratefulness

You can be going through a hell of a time, feeling all sorts of emotions and cursing the world and STILL be grateful all at once. Just because someone is going through a rough patch, does not automatically mean they aren't grateful for what they DO have. Also, you cannot teach someone to be grateful.... Continue Reading →

What an Open Mind Might Be About

There is a closed mind which automatically rejects new information and has prejudices. When the mind is closed, so is the heart. Then there is the Open Mind. That doesn't mean automatic acceptance or approval of incoming information; it's just the state of being Open. An open mind is just Open. It's listening. It's not... Continue Reading →

Anger Needs to be Expressed

Our culture says that anger hurts you but we are only getting a half truth here. Anger only punishes you when you keep it inside and suppress it. When you, however, give it full expression in a safe place, once released, you might find that grief was underneath it. Then finally, we feel the grief... Continue Reading →

Love IS Having Boundaries

I am seeing it makes a lot of people confused when I talk about how important it is to accept people for who they are and where they are -- to allow people to have their own world viewpoints, their own diet, their own opinions. People think it means to accept being abused and accept... Continue Reading →

Their Anxiety is Often Ours

Anxiety is an interesting one. If you interview people, I'd bet more than not will deny they ever feel it. We might not know we have a problem with it since the worst of it, like fear, is unconscious The way to find out if you have it is by noticing how you feel around... Continue Reading →

Your Past Might Not Be in Your Past

Your past is probably in your present. The unresolved wounds have followed you here. Childhood trauma causes us to split off from ourselves leaving us fragmented. The split is the unconscious part of your mind (inner child/shadow self) and the unconscious rules roughly 80's of your mind, behavior, your emotions, thoughts and decisions. This means... Continue Reading →

The Purpose of Suffering

I intuit everything has a purpose for our growth. Doesn't mean you don't have to think it stinks; doesn't mean you shouldn't be have your feelings about it. Just means our own pain has meaning to make us better people. Having said that, while my inner child might be pissed off, the adult part of... Continue Reading →

Looking at Bullying More Deeply

Standing up to bullies requires you to have some level of confidence in yourself, some self-knowledge that you matter and you deserve better. This might be the difference between those who fight back and those who don't. Those who don't, on some level, might believe the bullies and probably feel they deserve it. Also if... Continue Reading →

The Cultural Pressure to be Happy

Merry Christmas Happy New Year Happy Holidays Happy Birthday Just be happy! Hope you feel better Hope everything's OK What's good? What's UP? Hope you are feeling better. How are you? with the expectations the other will respond with "I'm fine." Don't worry; be happy. Our culture might be a little obsessed with happiness. The... Continue Reading →

The Happiness Trap

Spiritual gurus can be an essential part of our growth in the awakening process, but we will probably learn later on that we are your own guru. Gurus who have a following might speak some truths (which is what wheels us in because they have candy!), but for as much candy as they give out,... Continue Reading →

REAL FORCE VS PERCEIVED FORCE

We might think others are forcing their opinions down our throats or imposing their will on us. It's a common complaint especially on social media. But can people really force an opinion on others? Can people force us to go against our will? Even as adults? Nobody can force an opinion. Voicing an opinion isn't... Continue Reading →

Possibly The Highest State of Mind

The highest state of the mind might be a paradoxical state where you realize that everything is connected and everything is both. I can't explain it any other way than to say that things in life might not one or the other, not this or that, but both. Since everything is connected, even duality is.... Continue Reading →

Stockholm Syndrome and Our Perception of Love

​​ Stockholm Syndrome keeps people thinking that their abuse was normal. Unless the native wakes up, they will continue the cycle of abuse be it on their own spouses, friends, children, pets or anybody they meet and... maybe even on themselves. Stockholm Syndrome is how victims of verbal, physical, psychological, energetic and sexual abuse survive.... Continue Reading →

Merry Christmas Means What???

I don't celebrate any holiday and I don't belong to any religion, but if someone wishes me a Merry Christmas, instead of feeling victimized or persecuted, I choose to see their intention instead ...which is to wish me well! Even if I were depressed and hated Christmas? If someone is taking time to wish me... Continue Reading →

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