Questioning “The High Road”

Love your enemies Love people from a distance Forgive your enemies Why are we often asking each other to be false? We have this notion that being nice to people we don't like is the high road or a sign of maturity. If you genuinely feel this way toward your enemies and you're not deceiving... Continue Reading →

Spirituality | A Balancing Act

I think there is such thing as ungrounded spiritual beliefs as there is such thing as beliefs being too spiritually materialistic and overly logical. In a black and white all or nothing world, I think the truth is often in the middle. Maybe we cannot learn unless we explore both extremes and check out each... Continue Reading →

We Really Do Need Love

"For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that "unless you love yourself, no one else will love you." ...The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation." ~Bruce D. Perry, M.D.,... Continue Reading →

Is It Bad to Wish Pain on Our Abusers?

I used to be concerned with being spiritual back in 2014 when I started dipping my feet into popular spirituality, but over the last few years, my main concern is centered on being authentic. That is going to include (expressed in a safe environment) all of my authentic violent blood-red rage, anger, shame, sadness, terror,... Continue Reading →

Wondering if Perception Even Exists

We have likes and dislikes. But in a world where we are conditioned to believe that truth does not exist --- that there is only perception, I theorize that maybe it's the opposite. Maybe there are no perspectives or seeing things differently. With regard to absolute Truth, maybe there is only the Truth and untruths.... Continue Reading →

Taking Things Personally

Just like anyone else, I sometimes take it personally when someone takes something personally. But is it something to shame others for? Should we shame ourselves over it? I have been writing on this topic for some time and I have been thinking that maybe we are not making mistakes by taking things personally. I... Continue Reading →

The Physical and Spiritual Aspect of Trauma

The physical and non-physical (spiritual) aspect of trauma that very few discuss.... With trauma, there is both a physical-worldly aspect and a spiritual aspect. We might either solely focus on the physical and get overwhelmed to the point where we are often outside the "window of tolerance" (the window that allows us to feel our... Continue Reading →

The Highest Honesty

When we think of honesty sometimes, we might think of badass women telling people off, we think of people cursing, we might think of inflexibility, or overly rigid boundaries that oppress or victimize others. And while that might be a good start, I feel the deepest and realest form of honesty is vulnerability and talking... Continue Reading →

Condemnation is Common

We all condemn each other. The only difference between one person and another is whether they condemn overtly, covertly, quietly or subconsciously. Anyone who has any trauma in their background is going to attract people into their lives to trigger them enough to go back and heal their original wounds. Anyone who has trauma (repressed... Continue Reading →

Are your choices your own?

​We might not be experiencing REAL consistent choices until we begin the healing process and start deprogramming. Until then, choice or free will is illusory. Many of our decisions we think we are freely making, our thought processes and patterns, might be really old dusty running programs in our head. We don't have consciousness until... Continue Reading →

Premature Forgiveness

​We might unconsciously forgive our perpetrators prematurely because this way, we don't need to feel the deepest parts of our pain. Premature cognitive forgiveness, like false positivity and false gratefulness, work as a form of dissociation since the survivor might not be ready to or want to go deeper right now. If people were more... Continue Reading →

HUMBLE PIE

HUMBLE PIE You know you're staring to get real when you realize how fake you are. You know you are genuinely healing when you realize that you have a long way to go. You know you're becoming self-aware when you realize that you don't understand all of yourself yet and why you behave and think... Continue Reading →

RELATIONSHIPS AND ATTACHMENT

RELATIONSHIPS AND ATTACHMENT Religion and popular culture, as they exploit our trauma-based fear of relational pain, have been programming us to avoid attachments in the name of "spirituality" and "growth" for the longest time. We have all learned to keep people at arms length. Don't let anyone in. Keep relationships shallow and business like. Be... Continue Reading →

Emotion: Energy(e) In Motion

​If we are going to talk about high or low frequencies or vibrations, it's a lot simpler than we think. Popular culture will have you think negative emotions cast low vibes and positive emotions cast high vibes. But, I don't think it works that way. I think suppressed/repressed emotions cast the low vibes and EXPRESSED... Continue Reading →

The Liberation in Epigenetics

I don't buy that we are a slave to our genes. While we may not be able to change our eye color, we are able to re-write our genetic predispositoins to physical maladies. It is much easier for us to deal with physical illness than to deal with the emotions they might mask so this... Continue Reading →

​ Demystifying the emotion-body connection

I think both lifestyle and trauma both contribute to physical maladies. When we are traumatized (this includes even medical procedures and surgeries) as children, we cannot deal with that level of physical or emotional pain so we split off and detach from it to survive and the unresolved unprocessed trauma along with the associated grief... Continue Reading →

There Is No Magic Button

The age old positivity movement is about magic buttons. There's the... Let it go button. The Just be happy button. The Don't worry button. The Forgive button. The be grateful button. The Calm down button. The Love yourself button. The Think positively button. The Quiet your mind button. The Get over it button. The Move... Continue Reading →

The “They Are Imperfect Humans” Excuse

​"They are only human" "Nobody's perfect" ...in defense of child molesters and those ​complicit? OK. Fair enough. I really do think it is important to see we are all imperfect humans who make mistakes. But if they are mistakes, then we need to own them by resisting the temptation to justify them and apologize by... Continue Reading →

Demystifying Psychic Awareness of Others

Reading people is normal. Maybe not common, but normal. We are all hardwired from birth to see people beneath their mask and into their subconscious mind. Babies do this. Children are wildly aware of everything. It is not woo to see the depths of people with clarity. We are all connected in spirit; this is... Continue Reading →

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