The Physical and Spiritual Aspect of Trauma

The physical and non-physical (spiritual) aspect of trauma that very few discuss.... With trauma, there is both a physical-worldly aspect and a spiritual aspect. We might either solely focus on the physical and get overwhelmed to the point where we are often outside the "window of tolerance" (the window that allows us to feel our... Continue Reading →

The Highest Honesty

When we think of honesty sometimes, we might think of badass women telling people off, we think of people cursing, we might think of inflexibility, or overly rigid boundaries that oppress or victimize others. And while that might be a good start, I feel the deepest and realest form of honesty is vulnerability and talking... Continue Reading →

Condemnation is Common

We all condemn each other. The only difference between one person and another is whether they condemn overtly, covertly, quietly or subconsciously. Anyone who has any trauma in their background is going to attract people into their lives to trigger them enough to go back and heal their original wounds. Anyone who has trauma (repressed... Continue Reading →

Are your choices your own?

​We might not be experiencing REAL consistent choices until we begin the healing process and start deprogramming. Until then, choice or free will is illusory. Many of our decisions we think we are freely making, our thought processes and patterns, might be really old dusty running programs in our head. We don't have consciousness until... Continue Reading →

Premature Forgiveness

​We might unconsciously forgive our perpetrators prematurely because this way, we don't need to feel the deepest parts of our pain. Premature cognitive forgiveness, like false positivity and false gratefulness, work as a form of dissociation since the survivor might not be ready to or want to go deeper right now. If people were more... Continue Reading →

HUMBLE PIE

HUMBLE PIE You know you're staring to get real when you realize how fake you are. You know you are genuinely healing when you realize that you have a long way to go. You know you're becoming self-aware when you realize that you don't understand all of yourself yet and why you behave and think... Continue Reading →

RELATIONSHIPS AND ATTACHMENT

RELATIONSHIPS AND ATTACHMENT Religion and popular culture, as they exploit our trauma-based fear of relational pain, have been programming us to avoid attachments in the name of "spirituality" and "growth" for the longest time. We have all learned to keep people at arms length. Don't let anyone in. Keep relationships shallow and business like. Be... Continue Reading →

Emotion: Energy(e) In Motion

​If we are going to talk about high or low frequencies or vibrations, it's a lot simpler than we think. Popular culture will have you think negative emotions cast low vibes and positive emotions cast high vibes. But, I don't think it works that way. I think suppressed/repressed emotions cast the low vibes and EXPRESSED... Continue Reading →

The Liberation in Epigenetics

I don't buy that we are a slave to our genes. While we may not be able to change our eye color, we are able to re-write our genetic predispositoins to physical maladies. It is much easier for us to deal with physical illness than to deal with the emotions they might mask so this... Continue Reading →

​ Demystifying the emotion-body connection

I think both lifestyle and trauma both contribute to physical maladies. When we are traumatized (this includes even medical procedures and surgeries) as children, we cannot deal with that level of physical or emotional pain so we split off and detach from it to survive and the unresolved unprocessed trauma along with the associated grief... Continue Reading →

There Is No Magic Button

The age old positivity movement is about magic buttons. There's the... Let it go button. The Just be happy button. The Don't worry button. The Forgive button. The be grateful button. The Calm down button. The Love yourself button. The Think positively button. The Quiet your mind button. The Get over it button. The Move... Continue Reading →

The “They Are Imperfect Humans” Excuse

​"They are only human" "Nobody's perfect" ...in defense of child molesters and those ​complicit? OK. Fair enough. I really do think it is important to see we are all imperfect humans who make mistakes. But if they are mistakes, then we need to own them by resisting the temptation to justify them and apologize by... Continue Reading →

Demystifying Psychic Awareness of Others

Reading people is normal. Maybe not common, but normal. We are all hardwired from birth to see people beneath their mask and into their subconscious mind. Babies do this. Children are wildly aware of everything. It is not woo to see the depths of people with clarity. We are all connected in spirit; this is... Continue Reading →

Women on Women Sexism

I think the worst sexism doesn't come from men, but from other women. I see women tearing other women down all the time. Women who post selfies, for starters.... So many women feel uncomfortable when other women post their selfies often. The prettier, the more self-assured and the happier these women appear to be, the... Continue Reading →

Is it impossible to heal completely?

Today, I challenge the notion that we can never heal completely. I think it really depends on if we are talking about getting it all done in this lifetime or at all in terms of eternity. My opinions are based on the belief that our souls are eternal and that reincarnation is real. From the... Continue Reading →

What Are My Dreams About?

I think your dreams stem from the subconscious aspect of yourself that exist to help you become more aware of the issues that you need to work on. Dreams, if we pay attention, help us become self-aware and more in tune with how we feel inside the deeper aspects of ourselves. Dreams show us what... Continue Reading →

The Problem with Gratitude

Gratefulness can be another spiritual bypass trap. I think gratefulness IS a divine virtue, but like forgiveness, it's got to be authentic. I can sit around here and tell you all what I am grateful about, but unless I really mean it and unless I am TRULY embodying it through my own ACTIONS, it's just... Continue Reading →

Addressing Ego-bashing

The more we bash the ego as bad, the more time it might take to heal and disidentify with it. The ego is not wrong. It's our inner child. It came to life to hold on to our traumas so that we could function in the world. The only reason you're still breathing now is... Continue Reading →

On Being Seduced by Power

We all say we love authenticity, but then we celebrate, applaud and may even get turned on when other's authenticity and free expression is shut down and censored by banhammer mentalities. Authority is SEXY. Power is SEXY. Iron Fist Rule is SEDUCTIVE. I sit back and observe this human phenomenon and other's seduction to tyrannical... Continue Reading →

Double Standards and Authority Worship

Outside the universal problems and implications of authority worship I have is that so long as one is in a position of popularity, status, hero-ship or authority, they can have all the boundaries they want, all the discernment they want, and all the quirks they have. They are allowed to have flaws. In fact, their... Continue Reading →

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