Liberation Lives Outside the Box

Extremes live in a box. And at some point, we might feel suffocated and exhausted. One of the most difficult things to do is appreciate and see all the complex shades of gray in life. Often, we only see black or white, this extreme or that extreme. Liberal vs conservative, atheist vs believer, man vs... Continue Reading →

Why Listening is the Hardest Thing to Do

​Listening is the hardest thing to do because it requires that you see you're not the most important person anymore. It is you acknowledging someone else is also just as important. Fully listening to someone else and hearing their story is one of the most humbling experiences one can have.

What Makes Us Advanced?

Interesting that how advanced a nation is considered is contingent on how much cool technology they have. I'd prefer to think advancement has more to do with whether or not we're capable of unconditional love. I'd rather strive for that, anyway. Oh do I ever love my computer! You take it away, I will be... Continue Reading →

The Victim and The Thriver

It seems as if we all have different opinions as to what a victim or survivor is and many of us disagree with how those words are to be used. I have made up my own meanings as to the difference between these two oversimplified words. For me "victim" is the stage of grief we... Continue Reading →

Conservative VS Progressive in Our Daily Lives

We have the words "progressive" and it's opposite would be "conservative". We usually use them referring to political rhetoric. However, outside politics they have somewhat of a different nuance. I see conservatism as being conventional and honoring tradition and trying to keep what was in tact in spite of whether or not it is needed.... Continue Reading →

What is Positivity?

Being positive might not be so much about our thoughts as much as our actions, beliefs and behaviors. We can think positive until the cows come home, but unless our behavior is an energetic match, it's not positive.

The Need to Feel We Matter

If we didn't want others to see who we were, we wouldn't use social sites on the internet (i.e. blogs, youtube, social media), and we'd keep everything about ourselves in diaries. Some people love to share recipes, their artwork, their card tricks, their photos, their songs, their bad days, their good days, their job promotion,... Continue Reading →

My Opinion on Femininity

Society has rules for each sex, but they have all been made up over the last century. How much weight do we give these arbitrarily made rules? There are specific differences, but are those differences what we've been told they are? Do we ever question them? Contrary to antiquated popular belief, being feminine might not... Continue Reading →

How Spiritual Pyramids Can Disempower Us

Do we really need more reasons to be ashamed of ourselves? There are so many spiritual shame-inducing pyramids out there that suggest love and joy are high-vibrational and feelings like shame, fear, guilt and anger are low-vibrational. While it is true love is the highest vibrational frequency, the intent behind the message might be to... Continue Reading →

On Forgiveness

Healing is not contingent on forgiveness but forgiveness may be a natural byproduct of true and complete healing from trauma. I would like to share some empowering and validating passages from the book "Miss America By Day" written by Marilyn Van Derbur who was incested from age 5-18 by her father. Marilyn courageously did the... Continue Reading →

Sociopathy: The Path to Inner Peace?

I often hear others say that it's not fair that sociopaths are so happy and it's always the good people who have to suffer as their victims. The myth of the happy sociopath might have to do with the false beliefs that were ingrained in us since we were children on what happiness means. A... Continue Reading →

The Other Humility

Faux-humility might be a common practice in some regions of the world and we might do it to please others and fit into the culture. Nobody wants to be thought of as arrogant. What impresses me are those people who can admit they are smart, funny, creative and take pride in their gifts. It takes... Continue Reading →

The TV versus The Internet

Some of us might make a big deal about how television dumbs us down and that the internet is a safe alternative because as least we can choose what to look at and at least we can do research to learn unlike TV where we don't have many choices. And while that is true, here's... Continue Reading →

Why Darkness Might Be Our Friend

And why I'm not afraid of the dark side of life... We might use the term "negative" to ascribe to those people brave enough to talk about and face the darkness, but I find the darkness and the facing of it rather positive and here's why: Running from and going out of our way to... Continue Reading →

The Permission to be Confident

Confidence is bad. Stop that. Unless you're an author, a comedian, or a spiritual leader. Then you are allowed to be confident and say anything you want to an audience. But if you're just an average sweaty human, do not ever be confident as you'll be labeled as "egotistical". Isn't that funny how that works?... Continue Reading →

The Invisible Survivor and What You Can Do

While the poor, homeless and starving are important too, I am very saddened by the lack of acknowledgment incest survivors get. So many of us 'save the world' types spend most of our time and energy into saving everyone but those who are the most ignored in our culture: incest survivors. The incest survivor is... Continue Reading →

EnREALment and the Holidays

All these wishes for others to be happy, prosperous, merry and so on during New Years.... Our intentions are pure, but what does it really all mean? While some people are living in a perpetual Hell day in and day out and could probably use a break from it all who may need our blessings... Continue Reading →

What’s in a Smile?

Someone may look happy, but that doesn't mean they are. A lot of us wear a mask as that is the only way to survive in a world that shuns authenticity and feelings. We cannot handle depth because we cannot handle our own depth. We cannot handle other's feelings because we cannot handle our own.... Continue Reading →

Balancing Gratefulness with Justice

I wonder if most illness in first world countries might be iatrogenic? IF they are... I find it important that if we don't speak up about the corruption on our own doorstep, we will become just like those systems in less privileged countries. Third world systems don't happen overnight; they happen as a result of... Continue Reading →

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