The Problem with Gratitude

Gratefulness can be another spiritual bypass trap. I think gratefulness IS a divine virtue, but like forgiveness, it's got to be authentic. I can sit around here and tell you all what I am grateful about, but unless I really mean it and unless I am TRULY embodying it through my own ACTIONS, it's just... Continue Reading →

Addressing Ego-bashing

The more we bash the ego as bad, the more time it might take to heal and disidentify with it. The ego is not wrong. It's our inner child. It came to life to hold on to our traumas so that we could function in the world. The only reason you're still breathing now is... Continue Reading →

On Being Seduced by Power

We all say we love authenticity, but then we celebrate, applaud and may even get turned on when other's authenticity and free expression is shut down and censored by banhammer mentalities. Authority is SEXY. Power is SEXY. Iron Fist Rule is SEDUCTIVE. I sit back and observe this human phenomenon and other's seduction to tyrannical... Continue Reading →

Double Standards and Authority Worship

Outside the universal problems and implications of authority worship I have is that so long as one is in a position of popularity, status, hero-ship or authority, they can have all the boundaries they want, all the discernment they want, and all the quirks they have. They are allowed to have flaws. In fact, their... Continue Reading →

Our Inner Guidance System

Did you know that we are all born with a built-in inner-guidance system? The only reason we might not realize it's there is because we have been programmed to blindly submit to authority. Authority worship was taught in school and at home from when we were impressionable little people. Now as adults, we don't know... Continue Reading →

Oh no! I’m not angry.

​ I've seen this all my life. Something unfortunate happens and this person is angry. I'll say "I understand; it's OK to be angry" and they'll respond saying "I'm not angry" or something to that tune when clearly they are angry. They are obsessing over the event and continue to rant about it or project... Continue Reading →

Anger

I often feel shame after using my voice firmly. ​I was raised to be a "nice girl" (polite, lady-like, quiet, docile, and people-pleasing). Many of us women were raised this way, yes? When I express my voice firmly, ​I always feel like I have done something terribly wrong. The shame is crippling. People don't even... Continue Reading →

How to Affect Real Active Change in the World

If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.

How to Manipulate Public Opinion

The best way to get people to go atheist is to delegitimize God through fundamentalist organized religion. The best way to get people to eat on a certain diet is by manufacturing idiots to represent the opposition. The best way to get people to become liberal is by manufacturing an unsavory opposing party. The best... Continue Reading →

How Knowing WHY Creates Compassion

You have to understand WHY people turn out the way they do in order to get to a point where you no longer condemn them. Condemnation is merely the result of not understanding the reason behind other's behavior. When we understand, we create a place for compassion to be born. When we understand, we can... Continue Reading →

Who is telling the truth vs who is not?

Over the years, I have developed my own measuring stick to see if someone might be genuine or not. I am more likely to give unpopular ordinary people a chance. The truth is offensive, inconvenient, unpopular, controversial, painful and what eventually liberates us. The more challenged you feel by the information, sometimes this might mean... Continue Reading →

Is Trauma Generational?

Trauma is generational in that we, with the use of our own Free Will, continue the cycle. That is the only 'generational' thing about it and it's not a "curse" either. If your mother was subjected to molestation in her youth, it is not your responsibility to heal it for her. She is responsible to... Continue Reading →

Everything is Really Real

There is so much emotional and spiritual stagnancy because our culture is all about invalidating our feelings as imaginary. And it's because of this, we have learned to invalidate ourselves. It's also how we avoid painful memories and emotions. When everything is imaginary, a story, an illusion, a projection and a dream, we remain unconsciously... Continue Reading →

On Gratefulness

You can be going through a hell of a time, feeling all sorts of emotions and cursing the world and STILL be grateful all at once. Just because someone is going through a rough patch, does not automatically mean they aren't grateful for what they DO have. Also, you cannot teach someone to be grateful.... Continue Reading →

Science VS Spirituality

Disclaimer: The word "God" is mentioned here. What I mean by God is source energy made of love that permeates all life.  There is no scientific measuring tool that we can use to prove anything exists outside our five lower senses so if you look at strict science, there is no basis for universal law,... Continue Reading →

What an Open Mind Might Be About

There is a closed mind which automatically rejects new information and has prejudices. When the mind is closed, so is the heart. Then there is the Open Mind. That doesn't mean automatic acceptance or approval of incoming information; it's just the state of being Open. An open mind is just Open. It's listening. It's not... Continue Reading →

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