Is it impossible to heal completely?

Today, I challenge the notion that we can never heal completely. I think it really depends on if we are talking about getting it all done in this lifetime or at all in terms of eternity. My opinions are based on the belief that our souls are eternal and that reincarnation is real. From the... Continue Reading →

How to Affect Real Active Change in the World

If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.

Anger Needs to be Expressed

Our culture says that anger hurts you but we are only getting a half truth here. Anger only punishes you when you keep it inside and suppress it. When you, however, give it full expression in a safe place, once released, you might find that grief was underneath it. Then finally, we feel the grief... Continue Reading →

On Self-Pity

Healing is very personal.  We think we know what is best for others. We don't. We can't. We can only know our own path. What may look wrong to one person might be very right for another. Sometimes it's time to suppress when things get overwhelming and sometimes it's time to face it. Let the... Continue Reading →

To All Incest and Molestation Survivors…

I created a Facebook page around a year and a half ago to celebrate the work of Marilyn Van Derbur Atler, a childhood incest survivor, motivational speaker and pioneer in breaking the silence around childhood sexual abuse who did not speak publicly about her abuse until 35 years later. Marilyn has devoted much of her adult... Continue Reading →

My Health: From Rags to Riches

Disclaimer: This is a story of personal experience. Please do not use my experiences to take the place of professional advice from a medical doctor. If you are ill, before attempting to use natural cures to heal, please talk to your doctor first. Please stay on your medication. Weaning off medication, fasting, and dieting should... Continue Reading →

Dealing With Keyboard Bullies

​The internet is like a shark's tank. It's all because people unconsciously still live in the past. They are carrying around large amounts of baggage. All that baggage and pain gets dumped on you instead. The bullies, rather than taking responsibility for their own life and feeling their feelings so they can heal from the... Continue Reading →

The Victim and The Thriver

It seems as if we all have different opinions as to what a victim or survivor is and many of us disagree with how those words are to be used. I have made up my own meanings as to the difference between these two oversimplified words. For me "victim" is the stage of grief we... Continue Reading →

On Using Diet to Heal Childhood Trauma

There is so much judgment when it comes to diet. We sometimes hate watching our loved ones die and/or we might be control freaks and don't want to admit it. Either way, we judge only because we don't understand one another due to a deficiency in empathy and maybe even nutrition too. Trauma lives in... Continue Reading →

Sometimes It’s Not About You

It's OK to take things personally sometimes to bring up those buried emotions from unhealed wounds of the past to the surface. We need to take things personally for our healing journey if you consider that. If someone has made you upset, it is not a weakness; it is a call to give full expression... Continue Reading →

On Forgiveness

Healing is not contingent on forgiveness but forgiveness may be a natural byproduct of true and complete healing from trauma. I would like to share some empowering and validating passages from the book "Miss America By Day" written by Marilyn Van Derbur who was incested from age 5-18 by her father. Marilyn courageously did the... Continue Reading →

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