Crying Won’t Make Anyone Perfect…

Cathartic Healing: Realistic VS Unrealistic Expectations |What happens when you start to rise from the ashes... Some might find I am on the healing path and expect me to be devoid of sin and expect me to be nice and sterile and squeaky clean since I am doing the cathartic self-work. Just the opposite is... Continue Reading →

Remembering is Healing

Nobody ever forgets what happened to them as every traumatic event is stored and remembered by the body and subconscious mind --- especially in the case of preverbal wounds.  We remember everything, but for now, for some of us, those memories are blocked from our conscious mind until we can get all parts of self... Continue Reading →

The Healing Nature of Transference

Healing takes place in relationships where transference is allowed to exist. And I DO realize this is a very tall order! In an exclusively therapeutic context there is no such thing as too much transference.  In fact, rebellious attitudes about it could be counter-transference. Very few will likely admit it that is so. Transference is... Continue Reading →

The Messiness of Trauma Recovery

Very few tell the truth about what the healing phase looks like. When I was reading “Your Soul’s Gift” by Robert Schwartz, I came across the below passage and it made a lot of sense. What so many don't realize is just how messy the healing phase is. It is not pretty.  It is not... Continue Reading →

The Eye of Our (Wounds)Storm

For the cathartic emotional release aspect of our healing journey, we might find that we start out emoting outside the "eye of the storm" from the grieving adult perspective. In other words, we might only be able to feel "around the pain" from the adult-self and this might last for a while until we feel... Continue Reading →

Is It Bad to Wish Pain on Our Abusers?

I used to be concerned with being spiritual back in 2014 when I started dipping my feet into popular spirituality, but over the last few years, my main concern is centered on being authentic. That is going to include (expressed in a safe environment) all of my authentic violent blood-red rage, anger, shame, sadness, terror,... Continue Reading →

A possible reason for some adult trauma?

​ ​FOR THOSE ON THE HEALING JOURNEY: We might start doing the healing work addressing childhood trauma only after an adult trauma takes place. Why must adult trauma happen? Haven't we been through enough BS in our childhoods? So many of us are not doing the nose-to-the-grindstone grueling blood sweat and tears work of healing... Continue Reading →

REPRESSION AND EMOTIONS

I am always fascinated by how repression works because I know how it had worked within me. It is simply amazing how our bodies remember every single thing, but our conscious minds do not. All of us have stuff repressed. It is either fully repressed or partially repressed. We are not supposed to remember what... Continue Reading →

Reincarnation and Healing Trauma

A really good question someone might ask about reincarnation is "If we cannot heal our traumas in one lifetime, that means in another lifetime we have old pain to work through and then new pain to work through on top of that. That's too much and we'll never get the work done that way." I... Continue Reading →

HUMBLE PIE

HUMBLE PIE You know you're staring to get real when you realize how fake you are. You know you are genuinely healing when you realize that you have a long way to go. You know you're becoming self-aware when you realize that you don't understand all of yourself yet and why you behave and think... Continue Reading →

Is it impossible to heal completely?

Today, I challenge the notion that we can never heal completely. I think it really depends on if we are talking about getting it all done in this lifetime or at all in terms of eternity. My opinions are based on the belief that our souls are eternal and that reincarnation is real. From the... Continue Reading →

How to Affect Real Active Change in the World

If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.

Anger Needs to be Expressed

Our culture says that anger hurts you but we are only getting a half truth here. Anger only punishes you when you keep it inside and suppress it. When you, however, give it full expression in a safe place, once released, you might find that grief was underneath it. Then finally, we feel the grief... Continue Reading →

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