How to Affect Real Active Change in the World

If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.

Anger Needs to be Expressed

Our culture says that anger hurts you but we are only getting a half truth here. Anger only punishes you when you keep it inside and suppress it. When you, however, give it full expression in a safe place, once released, you might find that grief was underneath it. Then finally, we feel the grief... Continue Reading →

To All Incest and Molestation Survivors…

I created a Facebook page around a year and a half ago to celebrate the work of Marilyn Van Derbur Atler, a childhood incest survivor, motivational speaker and pioneer in breaking the silence around childhood sexual abuse who did not speak publicly about her abuse until 35 years later. Marilyn has devoted much of her adult... Continue Reading →

My Health: From Rags to Riches

Disclaimer: This is a story of personal experience. Please do not use my experiences to take the place of professional advice from a medical doctor. If you are ill, before attempting to use natural cures to heal, please talk to your doctor first. Please stay on your medication. Weaning off medication, fasting, and dieting should... Continue Reading →

Dealing With Keyboard Bullies

​The internet is like a shark's tank. It's all because people unconsciously still live in the past. They are carrying around large amounts of baggage. All that baggage and pain gets dumped on you instead. The bullies, rather than taking responsibility for their own life and feeling their feelings so they can heal from the... Continue Reading →

The Victim and The Thriver

It seems as if we all have different opinions as to what a victim or survivor is and many of us disagree with how those words are to be used. I have made up my own meanings as to the difference between these two oversimplified words. For me "victim" is the stage of grief we... Continue Reading →

Sometimes It’s Not About You

It's OK to take things personally sometimes to bring up those buried emotions from unhealed wounds of the past to the surface. We need to take things personally for our healing journey if you consider that. If someone has made you upset, it is not a weakness; it is a call to give full expression... Continue Reading →

On Forgiveness

Healing is not contingent on forgiveness but forgiveness may be a natural byproduct of true and complete healing from trauma. I would like to share some empowering and validating passages from the book "Miss America By Day" written by Marilyn Van Derbur who was incested from age 5-18 by her father. Marilyn courageously did the... Continue Reading →

The Authority Within Part II

The Importance of self-experimentation and trusting the Self when committing to healing modalities and dieting: Truth might not live outside us like we might think it does. We can only know what works and what doesn't through personal experience, through our mistakes and through our own inner wisdom and guidance. It is great to listen... Continue Reading →

Why I Love to Hate Myself

Are we programmed by what we tell ourselves? We have our subconscious feelings (how we really feel about ourselves) and the feelings we want to have about ourselves. Many do not understand how programming actually works and that is why there is so much harmful self-defeating misinformation out there regarding advice on how to reverse... Continue Reading →

A Possible Answer to C-PTSD

C-PTSD might go away when we feel the feelings revolved around the trauma. When the abuse is faced head-on we shall be free, but it takes time and it's a process. Old feelings will begin to surface as our body becomes more prepared for it. The healthier we are, the better. The OCD, panic attacks,... Continue Reading →

Removing the Mask

Positivity and smiling are great if they are authentic and a consequence born out of realizing the self as a result of healing our past wounds. When we come out the other end of doing the hard emotional gut-wrenching self-work, positivity is no longer forced; it's a natural  byproduct of genuine cathartic release. Often, however,... Continue Reading →

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