THE LOVE FOR ATTENTION

I was brought up to believe that the desire to want attention is to be kept suppressed. Our parents were raised to believe that if you say you love your child, give them attention when they are crying, hug and hold them, hear them, compliment them, that - that is spoiling the child. And we... Continue Reading →

Why We Might Complain

I love people who complain probably because I love the part of me that complains. It's real. People who complain are real people. Some don't realize that you can still be grateful, fun and positive and still complain. Life isn't easy and we all need each other since we are all a part of one... Continue Reading →

The Trigger System and How it Works

Why we might sweat the small stuff: Hey, I knock people for sweating the small stuff sometimes sitting there feeling so self-proud that I only get upset over the big stuff. Yeah rrrrrrrrright! Then, I pretend to not understand why people get all worked up about meaningless minutia. When we say "don't cry over spilled... Continue Reading →

Dealing With Keyboard Bullies

​The internet is like a shark's tank. It's all because people unconsciously still live in the past. They are carrying around large amounts of baggage. All that baggage and pain gets dumped on you instead. The bullies, rather than taking responsibility for their own life and feeling their feelings so they can heal from the... Continue Reading →

The Victim and The Thriver

It seems as if we all have different opinions as to what a victim or survivor is and many of us disagree with how those words are to be used. I have made up my own meanings as to the difference between these two oversimplified words. For me "victim" is the stage of grief we... Continue Reading →

How to Deal with Narcissists

How not to be a victim and how to take responsibility for our own feelings and move to a place of empowerment. Change can only happen within and relationships with others help with that. This is why it's so important to have some semblance of a social life as others teach us inadvertently who we... Continue Reading →

The Other Humility

Faux-humility might be a common practice in some regions of the world and we might do it to please others and fit into the culture. Nobody wants to be thought of as arrogant. What impresses me are those people who can admit they are smart, funny, creative and take pride in their gifts. It takes... Continue Reading →

A Possible Answer to C-PTSD

C-PTSD might go away when we feel the feelings revolved around the trauma. When the abuse is faced head-on we shall be free, but it takes time and it's a process. Old feelings will begin to surface as our body becomes more prepared for it. The healthier we are, the better. The OCD, panic attacks,... Continue Reading →

What’s in a Smile?

Someone may look happy, but that doesn't mean they are. A lot of us wear a mask as that is the only way to survive in a world that shuns authenticity and feelings. We cannot handle depth because we cannot handle our own depth. We cannot handle other's feelings because we cannot handle our own.... Continue Reading →

Physical Maladies as a Survivor Tool

In order to heal, we have to really want it both consciously and unconsciously. If we only want to heal on a conscious level, but not on an unconscious level, we may not recover. All parts of self need to cooperate and be in collusion with one another. For those who have unresolved trauma in... Continue Reading →

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